The scariest day in a young girls life is the day she find out she will become a mother. There are a hundred thoughts running through her head when she has just taken a pregnancy test that comes out positive. The first things that have to be done is telling the boyfriend and the parents. Emotions can often run high and tempers may flair when parents find out that their teen is going to have a child. Anger is often the response when parents are faced with something like this because they are terrified for their child’s future.
For parents learning that their teen is pregnant is a very scary thing. Parents often think of teens as their babies they do not usually see them as young adults. It is hard for a parent to worry over how their baby will afford all the daily diapers that babies need or how to buy formula or baby bath. Especially when the week before this they were out buying acne wash for their teen and now they are taking them to the Obstetrician’s office.
This is overwhelming for parents. Then it is the time to let the boyfriend know. Teenage boys will give their girlfriend one of two different reactions. The boyfriend will either not want to deal with the responsibility or he will want to take care of the baby and mother. Teen boys tend to act like children when they are faced with responsibility like this. They know their lives are going to completely change.
Some teenage boys can not handle this fact and they choose to have nothing to do with the baby or mother. If this is the case just remember that you don’t need him and you can do this on your own. Do not let him get away with out supporting his child. Once the baby is born take him to court for child support. Supporting his child is his responsibility and he will have to do it whether he wants to or not.
Some teen mothers are too scared to do this because the boyfriend has threatened to take the baby away from them. If the boyfriends family has money they will use that to threaten you with taken your child. As long as you are taking proper care of your baby, no judge is going to take your child away from you no matter how much money his parents have.
Raising a baby is tough work but it can also be rewarding. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and you have every right to feel that way. Be sure to ask your friends and family for help when you need it. Once the initial shock has worn off, your family will be happy to welcome their grand baby into their life. There are of course exceptions but usually the parents of pregnant teens are supportive.
If your mother and father are still not being supportive then turn to friends or other members of your family for help. After you have spent a whole night awake with a baby that wont stop screaming you can call a cousin, aunt, grandparent, or friend to help you out. You will not believe how supportive some people can be.
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